A friend recently directed me to a website (www.learningtoloveyourmore.com) that's put together by Miranda July and some other folks. They come up with assignments and people complete the assignments and send them in to be posted on the site. One of the assignments is "give advice to yourself at an earlier age", but I figured that really, if I need advice, I need it now, not at some point in the past, so here's my only very slightly edited list of advice to myself in the here and now. Feel free to comment on mine or add your own advice to yourself or whoever.
Advice to Crystal at age 25
Trust other people more and have more faith in everyone. You are constantly testing other people to see how much they love you. Stop that.
Figure our why you can’t keep your room clean. You like it better when it’s clean and the cats do too.
Stop being so worried about being lonely, but try to talk to people more and go to happy hour even when it makes you feel awkward and insecure. (addendum: have an actual conversation at the coffee shop today)
Really, there’s no need to start eating meat again. Chicken is kind of gross anyway.
You can’t make everything great right now so just try to love without getting so caught up in it.
Re-develop a habit of going to the gym because it makes you feel good and like your body more, but don’t become a vapid narcissist in the process.
Talk to your sister more often.
Develop real hobbies again, or at least interesting ways to fill your time, even if it’s knitting and that makes you feel like a cat lady.
You are naturally kind of lazy, so push yourself and when choosing between two things do the one that’s more interesting, not more comfortable.
Get drunk when you’re happy but try not to when you’re sad.
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The thing I like about your transformation of Ms. July's project is that it's hopeful, vs. regretful. I feel the advice I'd give to 25 year old me would be like, 'don't do this, don't do that, etc. etc.'. Your's is great because it hints at things about your life you're unhappy with, but with the confidence to change these things.
Now, the hard part will be listening to yourself.
Can I copy all this advice and give it to 23 year old Drew? It's all perfect, and so is Dirt's comment.
Yes of course Drew, you are a precocious 23 year old so I guess it's okay. But be sure to let me know how to actually follow this advice if you figure it out.
Can do.
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